November 2022

This week we are using the “f word!”
Failure is something that we all avoid because (insert a million reasons here….). I challenge you this week to turn that mindset around. I want you to FAIL FORWARD. Failing forward means taking those chances that make you have butterflies in your stomach and learning something from the experience.
As long as you are learning and growing there IS NO FAILURE! (Boom… drop).
Don’t be one of those people at the end of your life saying, “I wish I would have….” Get over that fear that is holding you back and go for it.

With the holiday season here, this week’s challenge is perfect timing. We are all striving for this perfect balance in life where everything is perfect and we aren’t stressed out. I can tell you that doesn’t exist BUT I can also tell you there is YOUR perfect life balance out there. Yes, you read that right. YOUR life balance.

Think about it… Why do you get stressed? Is it because you have overcommitted yourself or your kids? Do those things you committed to align with your values? Are they making you a better person or making you a stressed out mess? Are you doing them because that’s “what you are supposed to do” or because “the other moms are doing it?” Comparing yourself to others is the killer of joy.

This week (heck this whole holiday season) I want to challenge you to go back to where you wrote down your values. Think about your commitments and check yourself. It’s OK to say NO. It’s OK to say YES if it is truly something that aligns with your values and brings you joy.

Your kids won’t remember the perfect holiday decoration or event or even a messy house (as long as it doesn’t get out of hand ) They will remember how you act around them. They will remember you taking the time to be present and have conversations or playing with them. They will remember the tone of your voice. They will remember if you are positive and upbeat or complaining all the time. Those are the things that matter. Putting those things first you will find your perfect life balance.

Give yourself grace everyday and love the life you have.

This week may be challenging for you. It’s all about letting go of the past grudges against others and (mic drop here) yourself. Forgiveness is so easy to talk about, but sometimes crazy hard to do.
We carry this weight on a shoulders that does nothing but bring us down. Those people that hurt you may not even know they did or worse may not even care. The mistake you made years ago does not define who you can be today. You can’t go back and change the past BUT you can control your present and future actions & emotions. You control how you want to show up each and everyday. You can let others bring you down, but all you are doing is giving them control of your life.
Next Steps:
1. Write a completely honest letter to that person or persons that hurt you. Tell them how you feel and the impact it has had on your life.
2. Now get out of that victim mentality and crumble into a ball or rip that paper to shreds. Throw it in the trash and start to take back control of your life.
3. Each and every single morning write down your intentions for the day. How are you going to show up today for your family, friends, work? Who needs you on your A game today? What might trip you up today and how will you handle it