Weekly Challenge

What is Done is Done

This week may be challenging for you. It’s all about letting go of the past grudges against others and (mic drop here) yourself. Forgiveness is so easy to talk about, but sometimes crazy hard to do.
We carry this weight on a shoulders that does nothing but bring us down. Those people that hurt you may not even know they did or worse may not even care. The mistake you made years ago does not define who you can be today. You can’t go back and change the past BUT you can control your present and future actions & emotions. You control how you want to show up each and everyday. You can let others bring you down, but all you are doing is giving them control of your life.
Next Steps:
1. Write a completely honest letter to that person or persons that hurt you. Tell them how you feel and the impact it has had on your life.
2. Now get out of that victim mentality and crumble into a ball or rip that paper to shreds. Throw it in the trash and start to take back control of your life.
3. Each and every single morning write down your intentions for the day. How are you going to show up today for your family, friends, work? Who needs you on your A game today? What might trip you up today and how will you handle it

Find Your Tribe

The older we get the harder it is to make and especially keep friends. Life changes with kids, jobs, moving to new area, interests, etc…. happen. It’s part of life and how we grow as a person.
This week I challenge you to do 2 things:
1. Assess who are the 5 people you surround yourself with most. Do they help you be a better person? Do they make you happy? Do they bring you down? If they are the first two keep them and hold on tight. If they bring you down or just not the person you want to become or be, you need to really think about that relationship and if it’s worth it.
2. Those friends that are bringing you joy and making you better. This week be intentional with those people. Call them, do something together. Life goes by quick and you have to be intentional with maintaining those friendships.

Don’t wait for your tribe to come to you. You may be waiting around forever. Be proactive in your efforts to create your tribe.

Gratitude Attitude

This week I challenge you to start a new daily habit of writing down what you are grateful for. No matter how bad your day was, there will always be at least 1 thing you can be grateful for.
Step 1: Pick a time each day for it. For example: before you get out of bed, drinking your 1st coffee, drive to/from work or errands, before you go to bed. Whatever works for you to be consistent.
Step 2: Get out a piece of paper or open the notes feature on your phone.
Step 3: Reflect on your life/day and write down at least 3 things you are grateful for.

Bonus ideas:
❤️ leave a note for someone to tell them how much they mean to you or for something they did that you appreciate
❤️ look someone in the eyes when thanking them at the restaurant/store
❤️ Smile at everyone. It’s amazing how that smile could change someone’s day

The Perfect Body….

The perfect body we strive so hard for will not bring happiness. You may be happy for a short time if you hit your goal weight or measurements, but what happens when the scale tips just a little bit?
What you have going on on the outside says absolutely NOTHING about what you have going on on the inside.
You have to work on the inside first. You have to face those demons you are avoiding. Feed your soul instead of tearing it down.
What are you afraid might happen if you don’t have the perfect body? The people around you that truly love you don’t care what you look like.
Every bit of you is perfect, unique, and amazing! So many people love and adore you for who you are. Start believing them

Give Yourself a Rest Day

We are starting a new month which means it’s a perfect time to add something new while you are planning your month. Your challenge: Add in at least 1 rest day each week into your busy life.

What’s a rest day? It’s taking time off to let your body and mind recover. It’s taking time to reflect on the week and spend time with your family. It’s making memories that will keep you going and looking forward to the next rest day. It’s grabbing that book you been wanting to read. It’s doing the self care you have been putting off.

What it’s not? It’s not spending the day on the couch watching Netflix. It’s not scrolling through social media all day. It’s not running around trying to get all the things done.

Pick a day or even start with half a day and see how much more refreshed you feel.

Your Beliefs Matter

Two Challenge Week!!
In the world today everyone has an opinion about everything whether it’s politicical, religious, how to fold towels, or something in between. What you believe matters! What other people believe matters to THEM.
I challenge you this week to really reflect on what matters to you. If you believe in it, it’s important to you. It’s in your heart. It’s a fire that can’t be put out.
Now I want to give you a 2nd challenge, this one may be hard for some people. If you don’t agree with someone, do yourself and that person a favor and respect their opinion. Respect that they may feel differently than you and that’s okay. Respect goes both ways. Love each other. You can still be friends even if you don’t agree on something.

It’s Okay to have C+ Days

Calling all high standards/ perfectionist out there.…. This week’s challenge is for you.
Give yourself permission to have a C+ day. Give yourself a break from striving so hard until you are burned out. Giving yourself a break and grace so you not only relax, but also have some fun!
I challenge you to write down your to do list for the week. Now really think about what can you get done and still have time for some fun? What you call a C+ day could actually be a realistic A day.

Do Not Let Comparisons Destroy You

There is no such thing as perfect because we are all human. Everyone you know is going through something, some are just better at hiding it. If everyone threw all their problems in a pile with everyone else to see, we’d take our own back.
This weeks challenge:
When your mind starts to compare yourself to someone else, catch yourself doing it and flip the script to empowering thoughts instead of negative self talk.

Eliminate the If Only

In order to take more control of your life, get rid of the phrase “if only….then…”. Especially when that “if only” has another person involved. If only my spouse would …, then we would be happier. If only my boss would…, then I would enjoy my job more. Instead of putting your happiness in someone else’s hands, take control of your own happiness. You control your reactions and your life. Don’t let others take control.
Challenge for the week: Reflect on your current situations. Do you have any “if only” situations? How can you turn them around where you are in control and taking responsibility for your life?